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Sunday, 8 December 2013

How To Overcome Shyness And Develop More Ease And Confidence In Social Situations:


The first thing you've got to know if you're suffering from shyness and lack of confidence in social situations, is that you're not alone. Infact, majority of people often reports feeling shy in social situations (even if it doesn't look that way to others). Shyness is an internal experience and it's not necessarily that visible to the outside world. Infact, shyness is often mistaken for coldness, aloofness or "snootiness" by other people. You can possibly be surrounded by extremely shy people all of the time without realizing it. Hence, knowing this alone, can help reduce the feeling of isolation and shyness a bit. One way to ease yourself of the general feelings of shyness anywhere, is to look around for someone who seems to even be more shy than you, and go talk to him or her. Approaching someone who feels more shy than you, will help you feel more confident and less alone. You may also talk about your common feelings of discomfort in social situations and feel supported and elated. After this successful experience, you'll probably feel ready and more prepared to go out there and talk to more people. At least, you may have found a new friend with the same challenge, and you feel very excited and comfortable with it. When we feel shy, our attention is turned inward. Our mind is often preoccupied with fears of being judged or ridiculed by others. This absolutely can be very inhibiting, and makes us almost feel very awkward in our relationship with people. One way to deal with this, is to turn our attention outward. You can do this by focusing on what we like about the other person. Imagine saying positive, appreciative and complimentary things to that person. For instance, you may start the conversation by saying, "hey, i like your smile, or i like how alive you look today, you look good, whatever it is that makes that person appealing to you. Feel and say these appreciative and complimentary words to the person in your head first, as you approach him or her. When you do this, you'll be coming towards that person with the positive energy of appreciation and right mental attitude, rather than the energy of intimidations and wrong perceptions. This will help you feel more at ease, and feel better with the other person. This technique can be quiet helpful. My last recommendation for overcoming shyness and feel at ease in social situation, is practice. The more you try practicing these techniques, the more comfortable you'll become. Shyness could also be as a result of our temperaments. The "phlegmatics" and "melancholies" which are both introverts, tends to be more shy than the "sanguines" and "cholerics" which are both extroverts. You definitely need to discover your temperaments, so you can feel more comfortable and relaxed when dealing with shyness. However, if you always feel shy, remember you're not alone. Most of us do feel shy and uneasy in social situations. Practice these techniques, you'll definitely meet more shy people than you are, which will definitely boost your confidence. Shy people of the world unite! PLEASE COMMENT TO LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT THIS POST.